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A person seeking repair seeks in fact to go back to her infancy, getting rid of the unwanted defensive and autoprotecting schemes it had acquired then on the way back, find the original scene, let herself go in the womb or external womb (natural symbiosis) that she never had, let open again the critical windows and receive the essential imprints, and therefrom the safety and potential to grow as it should have happened in the first place.
However, re-living the early trauma is not a simple matter and so frightening that only with the aid of an adequate therapist the entreprise can be undertaken with some chance of success.
Therefore, the therapeutical journey may somehow unroll like this:
This is a time of consciously understanding that the past is the source of ailment, and torment, whatever the strength of the wish that it may not be so. And from there, some acceptance that therapy is going to be somewhat unpleasant, of long duration, and that it shall raise the fears of dependency, of being overwhelmed by strong events, and of facing an unacceptable truth.
Basically, therapy amounts to re-living in the present what happened during our infancy, more or less in the reverse order, the more superficial patterns and the easier to manifest showing first, the deeper and the more painful showing later. There is a precise order of unwrapping the whole set of emotional patterns and go to the root of it. The order we follow unconsciously is that of the easiest acceptance of what emerges (strength of the pattern, meaning, fear, suffering). The process is somehow like slowly getting accustomed to some feats about our past or about who we are and how we act, until a heretofore unknown event bursts open, and fades away just to let the next one show up, etc. During the period of heavy emergence, it may be lived as a loss of 'identity' (of all our beliefs about who we are), and a progressive nakedness, frailty and sensitiveness. There may also be a time of confusion until the construction of a new vision of our life.
The discarding of the various patterns of shielding, avoidance, shielding of shielding, and selfprotective schemes built up to avoid suffering and menacing situations, is going to be a sort of ratchet like movement, with very little steps. But each gain will at the same time bring the acceptance of more life into the body, until we are ready for the dive into symbiosis with our therapist. Fear is likely to appear then, whether conscious or not. It comes from the fact that either that state of symbiosis never happened (anxiety of the unknown), or that it has been destructive in the first place (anxiety of repetition: fear of meeting 'death' or 'crazyness'). And at the same time, that symbiosis is very much wanted, since it means repair.
When the symbiotic state becomes to appear, we will then probably experience the strange symptoms of melting, of falling, of contentment, or of agitation. Then we may no longer know exactly who we are and what we are here for, and what the next step will be. Preconceptions and prejudices about self or life will most probably be shattered to pieces
Without our knowing, a very subtle change will then takes place,with the first signs of what may be named safety, and we shall eventually know that there is a faint light, which is to bring direction and meaning to our life and perhaps an end to this struggle. And we may begin to feel life as coming of itself from deep inside, a pulsation which takes our body without our producing it.
Symbiosis may be accepted with trust, at last is a safe place where all problems can be brought and solved, all rages and all dreams will be taken for simple human occurences, all questions and anxieties will be met with a comforting smile.There may be a growing acceptance of the intensity life produces in us, of the fact that we are driven from inside, from some deep source of motion and wisdom. The feeling of our own consistency, integrity and strngth will also tend to appear, on the path of self-integration.
During this growing phase, all sorts of new experiences will happen, with each time maybe resistance, anxiety, and finally letting go in front of the evidence that that experience has to be confronted anyway. Slowly then will emerge the need for understanding, the need for a reason to that force, with the fear of getting crazy if all those events are not given some sense. And now, we are confronting the higher difficulty of looking at the world as it is.
Then we are probably going to meet the laws of the world, how painful it may be, and find that there is an unseen order, an untold paradigm behind everything, and that these laws give order, sense and beauty to the world. And we shall known then that what has happenened to us when we were just born has been a fault in the laws of nature. We shall also probably discover the 'greater than us' that we cannot move nor understand.
Now we are to be confronted to the worst of all, the necessity to let go of the safe craddle of therapy which had been so helpful for rebuilding ourselves and growing, and go naked into the big world. We shall have to leave that bond to enter the bondage of all human life, and discover by ourselves what this bondage to the world is made of.
Of course, there will be as many different journeys as there are individuals, but that exemple, built up from experience gives an idea of what a structuring transferential journey can be.
In this strategy, the therapist has to ensure that the contents flow in the right direction: 1-unconscious or dis-owned contents shall flow from client to therapist, and the therapist becomes aware of them (mostly contents felt as wrong, excessive or hideous by the client); 2-these contents made conscious in the therapist's psyche shall be returned to the client at the right moment and in the right fashion, so that the client will slowly meet himself in an acceptable way; i.e. the contents thought of as 'bad' will be smoothed, sorted out, their acceptable aspect returned labelled as 'normal', and the their harmful part returned 'to the earth', that is evacuated from the therapist's psyche by some mean. The therapist has to make sure the contents flow this way: useful contents to the client and harmful contents from the client. This is produced by a special disposition of the therapist. [see Theory of the Therapist ->]
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Transference will create a twin unit, and if the transference flow is correct, the client unknowingly will be able to use the therapist's psyche, mainly to make links between events of the present and events of the past, or inner links producing a enhanced functionality. The flow of psychic contents will use the therapist's system and will help until autonomous. The vitality of the therapist will pass to him and boost his motivation.
Addiction (or dependence conduct) may be seen here as a special transference scheme with the object of addiction, be it a person, a product or a device. If the transference stage and flow is correct there will be a progressive redirection of the main flow from the object of addiction to the therapist. In the end, the object of addiction will not be needed any more when the therapist will be felt a safe object to bind to.
During transferential symbiosis, there will be opportunities for re-enacting or acting the original essential imprints. This should not be missed since they are key events in the therapy. They may happen in the individual setting, during group therapy where there are plenty of moments for acting them, or in outer life with the aid of the therapist. It takes precise reactions from the part of the therapist since it is 'real life'. Impacting may come in a single or multiple occasion; if necessary, the therapist may let it replay several times, each being a furtherance of the preceding.
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